What happens when you introduce your girlfriend to Husband.
A newly married friend of mine insisted that I talk to her husband on the phone. Her husband wants to meet all our girlfriends. But, I dissuaded him and said, it will not be right. This should not be done. He then said I was thinking a bit too much. When I get married in future, she won't talk to my husband either. I then said, I will not introduce my husband to you. Now if he says, there is no use.
After this problem, he completely stopped communicating with me. Then another person spoke. After a while the girlfriend's husband suddenly starts comparing her with his girlfriend. Their moral pollution begins. In each case, he would say, "Why are you like that? But your girlfriend is so understanding." He then wanted them to stop talking. could not
Same story with two other girlfriends of mine. One stopped using Facebook after marriage. And added all friends to her husband's ID. From there another one started talking to her husband. However, before this she praised her husband in the girlfriend circle.
Another went to divorce. Later it was resolved by family. About an aunt, with whom I was very fond. He also liked me a lot. And used to praise me excessively in front of everyone. She also told her husband about me. One day she said that I should talk to her husband Just once. Her husband wants to be known.
I refused to talk. But, suddenly a message comes from an unknown number on What's app. After hearing the introduction, I understood that he is the husband of that aunty. It was embarrassing for me. It felt bad to give out numbers without permission. Now that I have answered it, I know how it feels to avoid it again.
Answered just for formality. After that, the back and forth started. He likes me, how do I know it's nice to hear so many compliments, Azaira teased. Later I blocked with harsh words and threats. That aunt felt bad to tell something. They have a very nice family So I didn't say any more because I thought there might be an adverse effect.
Human mind is the only thing in the world, which is very difficult to control. Not everyone can do it. What happens when you think? Where does it go? People themselves do not feel it. Only those who hold morality by suppressing their hobbies and dreams can control their own mind. Then one cannot compare one's partner with others. don't do it They adapt to everything. Understand that not everyone gets everything. Accepting, adaptable people are never impressed or attracted by the praise of others. The partner is perfect as it is. Wants nothing more.
Any solid relationship requires regular communication. If someone talks to someone for a long time, then even a tension is created in the mind Moreover, almost everyone is weak to praise. And the comparison thing takes advantage of this.
The idea that you leave your partner out of ten, and expect him to be very loyal, is wrong. Again you will discuss, compliment another person in front of your partner, and he will not be impressed. This is also wrong. People run to escape from crocodiles. Come closer and say jokingly, "Come on! Let's see!"
Not everyone can hold their own. Not everyone can be detailed. Everyone is human at the end of the day. And the human mind is out of control.
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That's why you have to be loyal to yourself before being loyal to your partner. That is, "I have no one, so I can be happy now" and "I have a partner, so I am loyal to him", you have to keep yourself moral from these two thoughts. To not feel guilty when standing in front of the mirror. Self-purification is necessary before others can be purified. At the end of the day, you can shout, I am special to myself. I have not done any wrong knowingly or by mistake.